Self Care...Is It? DoItYourself@ImSooDone.com
- Bianka Varnai
- Jan 19, 2022
- 2 min read
The Tough Mudder Isolation Mode

Why are soo many people around the world feel drained and cannot find the power and motivaton anymore to care for themselves?
We live in an extremely dysfunctional and misaligned society where everyone competes with each other and fights with each other over jobs.
It's a "fetch for yourself and get out of my way" mentality. Everyone fights their fights alone.
We don't have a tribe behind our backs.
If we want to get some care, like having a massage, getting our hair done, or any holistic body treatments, then we need to pay a lot of money for it, and even then...we can feel that it's rarely the genuine caring connection that we were longing for. It's just another soulless act for money, for survival...alone. Our deep need for real connection is not being met.
As a society, we are so starved of real connections that we often find ourselves feeling drained and lonely.
We are really and truly struggling inside. Most of us.
We lost the deep bond that tribes have. We lost our ability to connect with each other deeply.
We traded in our deep connections for the fast world of comfort.
Where are we running? What are we running from?
With the speeding up of the perception of time comes the increased need for balance and connection.
To once again become deeply connected to each other like a tribe.

We deep down miss rituals that are spiritual in nature, but also a deep form of caring for each other.
Braiding each other's hair as a tribe is a very different experience from going to a hairdresser.
Massaging each other like we care, with soul, not like it's an industry.
I help you, you help me. You help me, and I help others.
I help you, and you help others.
Let's do it together.
It doesn't need to be self-care.
Wouldn't it feel much better to do some of the care for each other?
That you get to wash somebody's hair and they wash yours?
When did we forget that it feels good to do things for each other? That it energizes us somehow in the same way it does when we give a present to a loved one. We seem to overlook this in our lives, and we just keep on working with our heads down and with our souls yearning.
Self-care became a movement in our modern society that makes you think it's amazing. Yet, in my opinion, it's an isolating act in many cases.
The answer is not to be tougher and do it all alone for yourself and call it self-care... No.
The answer is helping each other. Caring for each other.
The answer is doing it together...as a Tribe.

The day we realize that we all need each other, will be the day most of our suffering ends.
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